How To Adjust Marital Changes?

Yes there will be changes. It happens to EVERY couple whether you are ready for it or not so it is best that you start to prepare yourself on time. Yes, your man must have been the most wonderful in the world; cooks and cleans and hangs on your every word but trust me, one year after you say I do, you will look in the mirror and wonder “where is the man that I first met”. This is not to say that every man becomes a jerk after marriage but a woman does not remain the very center of a man’s world after the wedding  day. If you don’t believe me, wait till you get married.

You, Mrs Wife, will have to do everything by yourself, I mean EVERYTHING(except maybe bring home the cash). Whether you are a stay at home wife or a working wife you must find a way to cook, keep the house clean,do the laundry, run errands, check in with the in-laws, look after the kids, check what your husband’s dressings and medications, look after your appearance and still give him some sugar at night. Quite a list right?, but you gat to do it. thats the african way although some of us may deny it.

He will certainly stop listening to you as he thinks he is now the head of the home, find a gentle way to make him listen. He will suddenly believe that he is way smarter than you but it’d best to let him keep believing that.

Some people may tell you that their marriage got better with each year, well that was because they were able to sort out each issue and change that arose in their own way. You can do this too. Each marriages is different so try not to copy what other are doing as that may just be your downfall. Here are a few tips to help you along the way: 

a)Listen to your man and then try to make him listen to you: this is very important. Communication is not just about talking but also about listenin. Try to know when to keep quiet and also when to air your views.

b)Don’t complain too much.: this is what the men refer to as nagging. Wives have to try to rewtrain from complaining ven when things are very tough. If you get to that point you feel like complainin just stop and think about those ladies who are alone with no man of their own to kiss or argue with. Think of families who you are better than in some way and be grateful to God.

c)Do not EVER talk even a little bad about your husband to anyone. I mean ANYONE. This includes sisters and best friends. Although they may not say it, they will not only look down on him but they will also look down on you for making such a poor choice.