Is the Church Wedding That Important?

Maybe not. Not these days when the church in Nigeria (and probably some other countries) requires that you should first be married traditionally before coming for your church wedding.

Hey, I have my reasons so please read on.

All the glamour that follows the white wedding can be so tempting that most brides will not like to bypass it. Taking your picture in that white dress, having a bridal train, bridesmaids, the food, the music and not to mention the decorations, girl, why should I not have a white wedding, you would say? but is it really that important?.

These days the most important wedding in Nigeria is the traditional one, followed by the court wedding and then the white wedding and that is even optional, (gasp!..but it is true ) And Yes we do all three weddings to be "Truly" married in Nigeria.

Before you crucify me, know that even the constitution recognizes the traditional wedding and of course the court wedding. Now I am a Christian and I believe that one should do the white wedding or church blessing  but it should be a simple affair with special people and not be a do or die affair as it is these days. So may couples fall in debt mainly because of the cost of the white wedding. Traditional wedding in Nigeria are not that expensive except in some parts of the east where the bride price is high.  The couple just needs the father’s blessing, few traditional drinks with members of the extended members of the family, pay the bride price and go home.

 And the court wedding just requires payments and attendance of witnesses with the couple on the wedding day and that’s all. But the white wedding? That’s a whole jumbo matter, there is the venue to think about, the cake, the dress for the bride, the suit for the groom, the bridesmaid dresses, the decorations, the food, the cars and so on. It’s nerve racking for a bride and drains the pocket of the groom.

Don’t get me wrong, go for all that glam white wedding if you can afford it but if you cannot afford it then don’t just stress your man. Inflation is so high these days, the economic situation is getting tougher by the day and any wise woman will do a simple trad wedding, the court wedding (necessary incase of legal issue and foreign trips)and a really simple white wedding. Infact you could even skip the white pageantry and hulabalu altogether and just ask the priest or pastor to bless you and your husband. Remember the marriages is more important that the wedding.