6 Guaranteed Ways To Get Over Your Ex.

Getting your ex back is all you can think about after hearing a few deadly words; "It's over" or "This isn't working for me." Everything that you've counted on and known until now is suddenly gone. Your life plans, your hopes, your dreams and a part of yourself feels utterly lost. You are left with a broken heart and a huge, great, gaping hole in your life.

When you are heartbroken, hurting, angry, confused, feeling lonely and vulnerable, you desperately want things to go back to what they were. At this point, anything feels better than the pain you are experiencing from the breakup and you would do anything to get your ex back.

You know you are getting obsessed with your ex when:

• You try to find any excuse to contact your ex — you want to get that sweater you left at his house or you want to return something he left at your place. 
• You can't resist the urge to text or call your ex.
• You park outside his work place.
• You drive by his house at night.
• You turn up at his best friend's to find out what he is up to.
• Your thoughts and actions become focused more and more on him ... and less and less on you.

What you need to understand and appreciate is that getting through a break up is like getting through the withdrawal of drug dependency. Research suggests the trauma from breaking upseems severe because love rejection affects primitive areas of the brain associated with motivation, reward and addiction craving.

1. Accept whatever you feel.

Feelings aren't good or bad, they just are. Realize that the "withdrawal" you are going through is akin to withdrawal from cocaine addiction. Practice kindness, empathy and compassion with yourself.

2. Don't isolate yourself.

Start getting in touch with your family and friends who you think will understand what you are going through.

3. Get your diary out and filling it in with different activities,especially on the weekend.

Initially, you may not enjoy it, but now is the time to keep busy and be with your friends.

4. Get rid of the relationship reminders.

All the places you uses to go together is hereby forbidden to you. Even the songs you listened to together should be avoided. These things create nostalgic feelings and make you go begging him to take you back.

5. Keep reminding yourself that your happiness isn't dependent on your ex. 

Focus on finding happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family or signing up for that class you've always wanted to take, try new adventures. Do things that you couldn't do while you were in the relationship.

6. Try to view the breakup as a chance for a new beginning. 

Clean, clear and organize your personal space. As you let go of the old, you are creating space for the new things to come.

7. Focus on being in the present. 

Every time you start obsessing about your ex, stop, ground yourself in the present by feeling your feet on the ground, listen to your breathing, be aware of the sights, smells and sounds around you. Start off doing this for 30 seconds and gradually build up the amount of time you can do this.